Fifty Shades of Midlife


I just saw Book Club, the movie. It’s about a group of mature women who chose Fifty Shades of Grey to be their book of the month. If you don’t know what Fifty Shades of Grey is by now, even if you haven’t read the books, you have probably been living in a closet. This month I want to talk about the effects on the body of a book like that. That means we are going to talk about libido. Delicate ears and eyes, I will go back to our regularly scheduled program next month.

By the time this is posted this movie will probably have been out long enough that I am not going to risk spoiling it, but if you haven’t seen it, feel free to watch before you read.

She wants it, He doesn’t

Feel free to swap the “she’s” and the “he’s”, it can go both ways. When you have been married a while and have spent a significant amount of time raising kids, paying mortgages, and working; sex can become routine, uninteresting, or absent and body changes can affect the pleasure quotient. Whether it is difficulty getting an erection, vaginal dryness, stress, side effects of medication, or an imbalance in hormones there are times that we are just not that into it.

Desperate times

Once you pass so many years of age, 50 for some, 60 for others,  the body can start breaking down and we start to face our mortality. When this happens it can cause a need to live life to it’s fullest in a more powerful way. This can display itself in what we jokingly call a midlife crisis. Shiny fast cars aside, when you are faced with a declining body you want to use it for all it’s worth. Enter stage left…Viagra, or in this movie’s case, Fifty Shades of Grey.

Out of the closet

Sexuality is a large part of who we are as humans. It’s time to talk about it. A healthy dialog allows for uncovering any physical or psychological causes of low libido and can go a long way towards preventing depression, illness, and accelerated aging. Are you ready? 😉


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